By Lisa Calice, a humble & grateful daughter
Today, I celebrate the birth of the most special man in my life; my Dad. He goes by many names to many people: Lawrence, Larry, Buzz, Uncle, Dido, and Dad. I obviously owe my very existence to him, but even as old as I am, I continue to find more reasons to be grateful for him. To say he always has been and is the best dad really doesn’t begin to describe him.
If I have any complaints about my dad, it’s that he completely wrecked it for me. He just gave me so much that the bar was set pretty high for anyone else. He taught me things I wouldn’t ever have learned in school, and he’s been at my side on my best and my worst of days. He used to say to me, “I’ve already forgotten more than you’ll ever learn.” And he didn’t say that with arrogance at all, and it was always said with humor, but, in the end it really was the truth. Dad has never minced words and in fact is a man of very few words. The words he does say have meaning.
I am so blessed that my childhood was spectacular; it wasn’t one of great wealth; but it was rich in love. My Dad bought me my first baseball mitt when I was still a toddler and taught me how to play. Despite my stubbornness he taught me how to ride a bike, and how to use tools to build things. We spent time looking at the sky and he bought me a really nice telescope to study astronomy. Together we swam, fished, sailed, boated and water skied; all things I love to this day. We played football and watched football games and he taught me all the rules. It made me feel like I was the coolest girl ever! We went on ice skating, sledding, snowmobiling and tobogganing adventures in the winter.
I loved how he hurried home to be with us every night after work and spent the entire weekend and all of his vacations with us. It was never out of obligation, it was purely out of love. If you ask him, he doesn’t feel like he spent enough time with us kids. How wonderful it is to have someone who loves to be with you as much as you love to be with him!
My Dad even began my art career by giving me paper and crayons early each morning when I was a toddler, so he could get ready for work. I always had plenty of paper to create my masterpieces on! He encouraged me to go to college but he also tried to understand my need to create art.
As I grew up, I watched him always being of help to others, his parents, his sisters, and extended family. He would take care of our yard work and also go mow his mom’s lawn too. Really, he helped anyone who needed it, especially repairing cars, TV’s, and various electronic devices. The number of cars in his “fleet” most likely rivaled the number of stars in the sky. His weekend, late night and cold weather rescues rivaled AAA Roadside Service. I think I’m on the VIP Diamond Premium Plan.
If that wasn’t enough, he is the most amazing grandfather I could have ever imagined. Even when my kids and I struggled, and through the times I felt like a terrible mom, he was our rock. I don’t know how anyone could be so many things to so many people, but so he has. It was also a lot of fun seeing him do all the fun things with my kids that we enjoyed when I was young. I hope they will have all the good memories that I’ve had.
Most recently, the patient, kind and compassionate caregiving he gave to my mom the past few years just blew me away. I often wondered how he learned and carried out the care that he gave. I can only say that it is the result of great love. Those who don’t believe in God or believe in love should meet my Dad. Truly, love conquers all, and gives you the strength to endure and to overcome all. He doesn’t say much and he doesn’t need to. He doesn’t do these things for himself or to look good. He just loves us.
The 1 Corinthians 13 passage says what it is that I’m trying to say about my Dad and his incredible love for his family and those lucky enough to know him:
13 If I had the gift of being able to speak in other languages without learning them and could speak in every language there is in all of heaven and earth, but didn’t love others, I would only be making noise. 2 If I had the gift of prophecy and knew all about what is going to happen in the future, knew everything about everything, but didn’t love others, what good would it do? Even if I had the gift of faith so that I could speak to a mountain and make it move, I would still be worth nothing at all without love. 3 If I gave everything I have to poor people, and if I were burned alive for preaching the Gospel but didn’t love others, it would be of no value whatever.
4 Love is very patient and kind, never jealous or envious, never boastful or proud, 5 never haughty or selfish or rude. Love does not demand its own way. It is not irritable or touchy. It does not hold grudges and will hardly even notice when others do it wrong. 6 It is never glad about injustice, but rejoices whenever truth wins out. 7 If you love someone, you will be loyal to him no matter what the cost. You will always believe in him, always expect the best of him, and always stand your ground in defending him.
8 All the special gifts and powers from God will someday come to an end, but love goes on forever. Someday prophecy and speaking in unknown languages and special knowledge—these gifts will disappear. 9 Now we know so little, even with our special gifts, and the preaching of those most gifted is still so poor. 10 But when we have been made perfect and complete, then the need for these inadequate special gifts will come to an end, and they will disappear.
11 It’s like this: when I was a child I spoke and thought and reasoned as a child does. But when I became a man my thoughts grew far beyond those of my childhood, and now I have put away the childish things. 12 In the same way, we can see and understand only a little about God now, as if we were peering at his reflection in a poor mirror; but someday we are going to see him in his completeness, face-to-face. Now all that I know is hazy and blurred, but then I will see everything clearly, just as clearly as God sees into my heart right now.
13 There are three things that remain—faith, hope, and love—and the greatest of these is love.”
Happy Birthday Dad! Thank you for showing me what love is. My life is forever better because of you and your love!
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